Often, it’s hard for children to explain experiences.  Our tendency is to listen but remain confused, thinking we are being kind and polite.

What can be more helpful is asking the child to SHOW YOU what they mean.  For example, a young one drew this diagram so he could help me understand playing a new game that was introduced in his PE class.

Keeping a white board and markers handy helps tremendously.  Once the drawing is finished, listen and ask questions until you clearly understand the game.

How is this helpful?

Your understanding increases, the child’s expressive language is strengthened, and your relationship is more honest.